Webster’s definition of a friend is the following:
: a person who you like and enjoy being with
: a person who helps or supports someone or something (such as a cause or charity)
2a :one that is not hostile
b :one that is of the same nation, party, or group
3:one that favors or promotes something (as a charity)
4:a favored companion
5capitalized :a member of a Christian sect that stresses Inner Light, rejects sacraments and an ordained ministry, and opposes war —called also Quaker
— friend·less \ˈfren(d)-ləs\adjective
— friend·less·ness noun
— be friends with
:to have a friendship or friendly relationship with
I’d like you to meet my friend.He’s no friend of mine.… she … got a job, made friendsand managed to write a novel that hit the best-seller lists and stayed there … —Garrison Keillor, New York Times Book Review, 11 June 2006Over the last couple of years I have experienced moments of disbelief when I meet myfriends in public. They look older than I think they should. —Alice Munro, In the Stacks, 2002Never had a friend like that before or since. Never laughed so hard in my life as I did with Manny. —Philip Roth, American Pastoral, 1997
Middle English frend, from Old English frēond; akin to Old High German friunt friend, Old Englishfrēon to love, frēo free
First Use: before 12th century
My best friend in the entire world is my husband, then second my mom, third – a few select dear girlfriends and that’s about it. But I crave a deeper relationship with my friends. Sometimes people call me a good friend and it confuses me because I do not see them as good friends to me.
So, tonight I’m just checking on the definition because what I’m feeling with some is completely different than what they do. I think I have a very different view of friendships than others. I’m starting to wonder whether my expectations are unrealistic. Or if I’m wanting deeper relationships that are already available to me through the people I mentioned before. Social media and the occasional “hi” do not define a close relationship to me. Truly knowing each other defines a close relationship to me.
I think I need a check on this… What’s your definition of a good or best friend?